This is my new favorite question I ask myself (and ask clients to ask themselves) when figuring out what to do in any given moment.
For example, when deciding between various to-do list options competing for my work time. Or if I need a quick self-check in when I’d rather ignore the to-do list entirely and do something else that is probably not in my highest or best interest. (For example, this blog post won’t write itself while I’m in Netflix binge watching mode.)
This question is equally applicable in personal relationships. If you want to be more supportive and generous, then ask yourself if that next thing out of your mouth today gets you closer to this goal before you actually say it. This can work wonders and help you be more thoughtful in your words and interactions.
Of course, you don’t have to be superhuman. Not every choice needs to fit this criteria, especially right off the bat. It’s OK to give yourself permission for fun and enjoyment. In a way, this gets you closer to your tomorrow as well by opening yourself to the good times already available to you right now. (However, don’t let this become a justification for laying around in your PJs all weekend when that binge watching temptress calls again.)
This is not the only question that may be useful. Try these for further focusing help (or what to write on your to-do list in the first place).
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